What You Should Know Before Having Sex

What activities with another person are considered to be sexual?
Sex with another person involves playing with the genitals and often lead to the orgasm of one or (ideally) both partners. There are two broad categories of shared reports:

Oral love, where there is a contact between the mouth and the genitals;
Penetration ratios, in  which one part of the body (fingers or penis) is introduced into a part of the partner's body, other than the mouth (the vagina or anus)

Tip: If the activities you are carrying have a risk of transmitting sexually transmitted infections (STIs), they are likely to be sexual in nature. Read on to learn how to protect yourself while having fun.

How to react if you worry about sex?

It is part of the discovery of new experiences and new people. You may feel embarrassed, embarrassed or anxious about your performance in bed. As with any new situation, allow yourself time to learn and adapt.

Remember:

• During a sexual relationship, you have the right at any time to change your mind and stop.
• It is always good to ask the other person how she feels before, during and after this experience and discussing it.
• Your first time will probably not be your best, and that's normal.

What questions do you ask before your first time?

Having sex with another person can cause a lot of new reactions, so it's important that you feel ready. It might be good to ask you some questions before your first time and discuss it with the other. For example:

• Why do you want to have sex?
• What are your expectations about sex?
• What do you feel when you think about sex?
• Do you believe that this will change your relationship with the other?
• Are you making the right choice for you, right now?
• Did you ask for advice from an adult you trusted?

How do you know if you are both ready?

The following list will help you determine if you are ready to take action:

• We talked openly and honestly about sex, about our feelings about it and about what we want.
• You talked about safe sexual practices, and you have what it takes to protect yourselves.
• I know what I want, and I do not feel uncomfortable about sex.
• We talked about our limitations and our right to refuse, we are both comfortable talking about it and respecting the limits of the other.
• I'm excited, and I have a taste.
• The other person made it clear to me that she was excited and had the taste.
• We both asked for and obtained consent from the other.
• None of us has pressured the other to force him to act.
• I assume my emotions, my gestures and my expectations about the situation.
• If I feel the need, then I can talk to someone I trust.

Is it normal to feel shame or embarrassment?

It takes a lot of courage to surrender to the other during a sexual act. If you feel embarrassed or ashamed, it could mean you're going too fast. If you do not feel comfortable, respect yourself and wait a little longer.

Sometimes shame comes from an impression that something is wrong with you or your feelings. Your body might want something when you want something else. For example, it could be the case if you feel an internal conflict because your parents have inculcated a negative view of homosexuality, but you feel attracted to members of the same sex as you.

If you feel shame or embarrassment, talk to someone you trust. Our speakers can also help you sort out your feelings.

What if you do not have any experience in this area?

You're not the only one. All teenagers, regardless of their gender identity, are concerned about their lack of experience! Remember that:

It's all new so it can be scary! With time, the embarrassment will disappear but for now, say that it is not the end of the world.
You already know a lot of nice stuff about dating and sex, even simple things like mounting a repertoire of seductive songs and kissing. Take pleasure and try new things when you feel ready.

Talking to each other about how you both feel is good. It's reassuring to talk about your fears, and this can help you step back.
If you are concerned about not having a partner, focus on your qualities and the wonderful love life that is waiting for you. Lis Charlie's story

How to become a better lover?

Being a teenager means learning to do things that will seem perfectly natural to you when you grow up. Becoming a real lover is like learning to drive. It takes a little time and to become good, you have to know the basics:

Practice: The best way to get good in bed is to practice, but not just by having sex: by flirting and chatting, kissing, squeezing and caressing the other person. This is a good way to get ready for reconciliation, and there is no better way to discover what you like. If something does not work, move on.

Communicate your intentions: Quality sex requires quality communications. It is always better to ask for permission before trying anything new. Make sure the other person is having a real time. In movies, it sometimes seems that a mild music and deep sighs are enough for sex to be good, but in reality, you have to talk to each other and get the other's consent at every stage of the relationship.

Be aware of the other's wishes: Maybe you think you have to take the controls in bed and do what seems to be good, but for sex to be enjoyable, both people have to be enthusiastic about it. Consider the feelings of the other, inquire about his desires and make sure that you both have pleasure in asking the other for his consent. The trick to being good in bed is to give pleasure to his partner.

What if you do not feel ready, but everyone talks about sex?

It is always good to sound your heart in a given situation, especially if it is new. Young men may feel social pressures on the sexual behavior they have to adopt, such as sending sexts, sleeping with girls or practicing oral sex or penetration. So you might feel that there is no room for doubt and that you must absolutely be ready. If so, you will feel like a ball of nervousness in the pit of the stomach, or hesitation.

If a sexual act (even if it seems appreciated by all) makes you uncomfortable, ask why. Be attentive to your feelings, trust your instinct and only give yourself to acts with which you are at ease.