Five Tips For Men On How To Be Romantic

Every woman deserves some romance in her life. Advice for men to please the love of your life. Learn to be romantic and enjoy your life with her.
 

I as of late went on a mother little girl trip with two lady friends and their little girls to New York. When we arrived, there was an auto sitting tight for us at the airplane terminal to take us to our lodging — my companion's husband had organized the unexpected get.

The driver at that point gave every lady twelve roses, and a container of Veuve Clicquot — my companion's husband, had likewise organized the champagne and roses for us.

I practically cried, considering, 'Stunning, your husband is so astute and romantic!' I mean, go ahead! How decent would it say it was that my companion's husband thought to mastermind the auto, arrange twelve roses and a container of champagne for each of us, so we would kick our trek off on an incredible note?

Presently, I'm not saying my beau isn't a romantic. He does as such much for me: calls me and compliments me always, gets me unconstrained endowments, and is an overall excellent man who presumably would do anything for me on the off chance that I inquired. Be that as it may, I don't think he would have considered arranging blossoms and champagne for my entry in another city. (Like the greater part of men.)

We flew Porter carrier there and back. Furthermore, think about what my companion's husband accomplished for her when we returned? He really took the ferryboat over to the Toronto Island air terminal with their child to astonish her when she arrived because he knew she had missed them. Since my companions are romantic.

I was captivated. Did he do these things all the ideal opportunity for her? How could he know to do those things? Is it safe to say that he was conceived a romantic or did he need to learn? So I put a tweet out for romantic men. I discovered Ali Martell, a clever and surely understood blogger and originator of Cheaper Than Therapy, whose husband, Gav, is known to be potentially a standout amongst the most romantic men in Canada. So I got some information about romance to get within scoop. Here was his recommendation:

1. Men are not conceived romantic: "I think culture has a vast influence. Unquestionably for me, with a wife who loves movies, for example, Love Story, Princess Bride, and Sixteen Candles, it's genuinely evident what costs her pontoon." So, ladies, begin downloading your most loved romantic films and get your personal viewing!

2. It is critical for men to be romantic: "I think toward the day's end, each lady needs to know you're pondering her and considering what makes her tick. My wife is savvy, capable and interesting. She's given me three excellent kids. If I can demonstrate her in any little way the amount she intends to me, all the better." (Awww!)

3. It's anything but difficult to be romantic, regardless of the possibility that you don't think you will be: "You truly need to attempt and place yourself in her shoes for two minutes. It's not tied in with spending an enormous amount of money or heaps of time. You have to consider what will raise her day by knowing you give it a second thought." His simple recommendations? "Convey a few treats or cupcakes to her office. Draw her a shower and pour her a glass of wine. Take the children out for breakfast on the end of the week and let her rest in." (Yes, ladies, this person is taken. Too bad!)

4. The most romantic thing he's accomplished for his wife? "Most likely setting up a scrounger chase when I was away on a business trip. Despite the fact that a nearby second would need to be the point at which I amazed her with a photograph session for us on our tenth commemoration. Ali has constantly abhorred our wedding photos, and I astonished her with a romantic supper and session with a picture taken while we were in St. Lucia. (Alright, now I'm envious.)

5. Romance, he says, is for the most part about arranging. "Immediacy is great. Also, I believe it's an important piece of being romantic. However, I've generally been an organizer in each part of my life. So for me, romance is tied in with preparing. Leaving a Starbucks' card taped to Ali's controlling wheel, arranging Oscar parties for her companions and so forth."

Ali, you are one fortunate lady. Presently women, print this off or email to your husbands asap. Go!

Last Longer in Bed! Sex Experts Tell You How

Premature ejaculation is embarrassing...
But you’re not alone: About 30% of all men suffer from it

When it got to the point where it affected my relationships, I had to do something about my premature ejaculation problem. After months of research and trial and error, I finally figured out a way to overcome the embarrassing symptoms. I know a lot of guys suffer the same problem, that’s why I decided to share my journey and show you the exact techniques I used to conquer premature ejaculation.

4 Myths About the Female Orgasm

Last start with some myths about sex and premature ejaculation before we digg into the details

Long Sex = Good Sex

Guys often equate marathon sexual sessions with great sex. However, men and women are wired differently. Many women prefer 10-20 minutes of passionate, rough sex.
As guys, we tend to think we need to have sex with a girl for hours on end to really please her. But this is often wrong. Women fantasize about passion. A woman’s favorite sexual experience may the time she had sex for two minutes in a bathroom or an impromptu back-seat-of-the-car romp.

Just remember to be a passionate lover! While you do need to last a little while (about 8 - 12 minutes), a few minutes of passionate sex is better than 2 hours of endless, mundane pumping.

Penis Size = Female Satisfaction

Guys - stop worrying about the size of your member. Penis size doesn't matter to many women. In a 2012 study, researchers found that over sixty percent of women don't care about the size of their partner’s penis.

Also, the average penis size is actually much smaller than most men believe. A study done in 2013 by the Journal of Sexual Medicine found the average penis to be around 5.5 inches long. Another study found women prefer penises that were around 6.5 inches long when asked to pick a penis ranging from 4 inches up to 8.5 inches.

And if you ask a woman about their best lover ever – it's rarely the guy with the biggest member. No - most women say that the best sex of their life was an incredibly passionate experience.

Penetration is Necessary for a Woman to Orgasm

As humans, we all love sex. Women love sex just as much as men. However, men and women love sex in different ways. Men enjoy an orgasm in almost every sexual encounter. Women want this as well, but there's a problem: roughly 30% of women cannot reach orgasm.
Not only that - but around 80% of women have never had a vaginal orgasm. This means that only 1 in 5 women can orgasm from penetration alone. That’s not a good percentage, guys. So why do we worry so much about penetration?

Well, I don’t know the answer to that. What I can tell you is that we shouldn’t! You can give your woman an orgasm in a number of ways - before, during, and after penetration. Statistically speaking, you are much more likely to give your girl a clitoral orgasm with your mouth than any other way.

Women Don’t Like Sex as Much as Guys Do

Guys, we aren't in middle school anymore. Women love sex. Do you think Fifty Shades of Grey would've been one of the bestselling books of all-time if they didn't?
Women fantasize about sex just as much as we do. They have just been taught to be more discreet about their desires. If you think a woman is innocent and doesn't have as dirty of a mind as you do, then you're dead wrong.

Women get turned on in a completely different way than we guys do. Often, what arouses a woman is much more complex than what arouses a man. Guys might be turned on by seeing a hot girl with a nice body, but a woman needs more than just the visual.
Science used to claim that men are more sexual than women, but this was due to inaccurate study-results. Women have been proven to lie more than men in surveys. They often attempt to answer how they think they "should", instead of being honest.

What are the causes of premature ejaculation?

Exessive Porn Consumption

Yep, that’s right. Porn. According to recent studies, porn consumption affects dopamine production- a hormone responsible for controlling your ejaculation reflex. By watching adult videos excessively you teach yourself to come too quickly.
Since Internet porn makes it very easy for us to watch all kinds of fetishes and pornstars, we get used to it and masturbate to quickly achieve orgasm—almost like an addict seeking the next dopamine rush. Most men develop this habit from a very early age, making it hard to overcome if the right techniques are not used.

Hormonal Imbalance

Specifically Serotonin and Testosterone. . The hormone Serotonin controls our feelings of happiness and regulates sleep. However, there is also a direct connection between that hormone and your endurance in bed. This is why antidepressants are prescribed for these issues.
Unfortunately, they have a long list of side effects, like loss of sex drive and fatigue, making them impractical to use. The second hormone, testosterone, regulates your sexual desire, muscle growth, fitness, vitality and much more. Addressing this issue brings a number of additional benefits, such as having more confidence, as well as the ability to go for that 2nd round.

Anxiety & Performance Pressure

Having had many bad experiences – over and over again – you developed a mental block in you subconscious. With each failed attempt you felt more and more pressure to finally perform well. You may have also had unrealistic expectations due to excessive porn consumption, from comparing yourself with pornstars (consciously and unconsciously) causing even more stress.
You may have also had unrealistic expectations due to excessive porn consumption, from comparing yourself with pornstars (consciously and unconsciously) causing even more stress.

It’s Biological

Your ancestors, back in cavemen days, had to be prepared to fight for their family, food, and more at a moment's notice. This meant that marathon sexual sessions were not an option. Men that took a long time to come could be attacked during the act which decreased their odds of passing on their genes.
However, men who came quickly were able to spread their seed far and wide. A few pumps here, a few pumps there, and a baby was on the way. Men who could spread their seed rapidly had more offspring. Therefore, we all have a genetic inclination toward premature ejaculation.
So, relax – coming quickly is not a bad thing. You're genetically wired to do this, just like every other guy. The good news is that many men have found ways around this issue, and so can you!

6 Proven Solutions To Overcome Premature Ejaculation And Finally Last Longer In Bed

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The Most Common Solution to Premature Ejaculation: Kegel Exercises

Kegel exercises work out your pelvic floor muscle in order to give you more control over your orgasm. The muscles that control your orgasm are similar to those that control the flow of urine when you urinate.
If you ever had to stop peeing in the middle of using the restroom, then you know how to flex your kegel muscles. However, for most men premature ejaculation is mental not physical. If you can stop yourself in the middle of urinating then your kegel muscles are strong enough.
Strengthening your pelvic floor through kegel exercises can still be beneficial to some men. If you have well trained pelvic muscles, you can learn the squeeze-and-hold-technique, allowing you to hold in your ejaculation when orgasming, without losing your erection. You can just keep going. This requires the right exercises tho.
The first step in kegel exercises is to identify your pelvic floor muscle by stopping in the middle of urination. Once you can feel the muscle, you’ll want to start practicing. Go pee and then lie on your back with knees bent and spread apart. Flex your pelvic floor muscles and hold the contraction for 3 seconds. Then relax for 3 seconds and go again. Do 3-5 sets to begin and work your way up to 10 sets.

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Try Hypnosis to “reprogram” your subconscious mind to last longer

Whether you like it or not, your subconscious thoughts and desires control more of your actions than you’d imagine - especially during intercourse. Many things come into play, like what you associate with sex such as, old memories and irrational fears - all of which may be causing you issues and are not very encouraging.
Oftentimes men get into a subconscious self-fulfilling prophecy or vicious cycle: Because you had so many experiences of finishing too fast, your subconscious starts to accept it as the standard and strives to fulfill it.
NLP (Neuro Linguistic-Programming) and Hypnosis offer you a way to take your interfering thoughts and turn them into useful ones. It will help you to detach yourself from your fears and rewire your subconscious mind for longer lasting sex.

If your subconscious mind does not align with your conscious control of your body, you will continually be fighting an uphill battle in fighting premature ejaculation.

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Adjust Hormones by Changing Your Diet, Taking Supplements or Medication

Hormones influence all aspects of sex. Serotonin and dopamine have a direct impact on how long you last in bed. You can change the effects of these hormones on your sex organs by taking SSRI pills, which have been proven to help prolong male ejaculation time. However, SSRI pills often have major side effects.
One of the main (and very common) side effects of SSRI pills is erectile dysfunction… Now I don’t know about you, but I’d prefer to ejaculate prematurely than not to be able to get it up. So, instead of taking SSRI pills, you might want to try changing your diet.

Foods like bananas, dark chocolate, wild fish, free range beef, and organic eggs all boost serotonin levels. Also, consider drinking a whey protein shake each day. Alternatively, you can use supplements and natural plant extracts to boost your serotonin production - without the side effects you’d get from SSRImedication. This is because supplements and plant extracts provide your brain with the necessary proteins it needs to produce serotonin, instead of pushing your receptors to produce more (like SSRIs do). It helps your body to reach its full, natural potential and balances out a deficiency in serotonin (if you happen to have one).

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Positions To Help You Last Longer

It’s much harder to last in some sexual positions than in others. Every man needs to find out what positions work best for him. However, there are some general guidelines to follow:

First, you want to have gravity working for you - not against you. This means that the "missionary position" may be contributing to your problem. Not only is your penis on a downward slope while in missionary, but you also have to hold up your own body weight. Holding your body weight up requires you to flex your muscles, which leads to faster ejaculation.

Try girl-on-top positions to delay ejaculation. Your muscles won’t be flexed and you'll have gravity on your side. Control her movements by firmly guiding her hips with your hands. If you get close to coming, stay inside your girl, but pull her down to kiss you. As you kiss, make sure she stops moving. This will give you a nice break.

You can also try standing during sex, if you have a bed or couch at the right height. Many men find that standing up while having sex delays their orgasm. Depending on the height of the bed or couch, your girl can lie on her back and you can do standing-missionary. Or she can be bent over in doggy-style while you are standing.

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Gain confidence in bed and eliminate performance anxiety

If you are nervous about having sex with a girl or busting too quickly, you most likely will do just that. Sex is like sports. If you are thinking about missing a shot or dropping a ball, you will. If you are thinking about coming quickly, you will.
However, you can handle this problem in a few ways. The first way is the fun way. If you have a girlfriend or a chick you are regularly having sex with then start having more sex. Actually, you should have as much sex as possible. Practice makes perfect.
Another way to get rid of performance anxiety is through affirmations. When you wake up in the morning walk to the mirror and stare at yourself. Then start saying things like, “I am going to rock her world” or “My sexual stamina is a strength” or “I can last as long as I want”. You get the idea. Repeat each saying 10 times every morning.
Lastly, you can try using NLP (Neuro Linguistic-Programming) to cure your performance anxiety.

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Your Breathing During Sex Plays a
Big Role In Your Arousal, and How Long You Can Last in Bed

Men breathe heavier and faster when they're about to come. How you breathe is directly correlated with your level of excitement and arousal. When your breath is heavy during intercourse, your mind thinks it's time to ejaculate.
Thus, to extend your stamina in the bedroom, you must control your breathing. Make a mental note to breathe slowly while you're inside your girl. Relax your mind and slow your breath. If this means you slowly thrust in and out of her, so be it. If you start to breathe heavily during sex and can't catch your breath - slow down or pull out. Then, catch your breath and start again.

If you're out of shape, this could be hurting your sex life. Try adding more cardio into your workout schedule if you find yourself huffing and puffing every time you have sex.

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Learn to please her in other ways

Practice makes perfect. If you're going to last longer in bed, you need to have more sex. And it’s tough to have a lot of sex if you can't get a girl to have sex with you more than once.
This means you need to please her in other ways. If premature ejaculation is a big issue for you, learn to pleasure a woman without penetration. The two easiest ways to do this are with your fingers and/or your mouth.

Fingering the clitoris is often a waste of time. However, you can still use your fingers to your advantage. To finger a girl properly, use your index and middle fingers. Slide these two fingers inside her (wet) vagina and find the “squishy” part of her vagina, located on the top of the vaginal cavity, about an inch or two inside of her. Slowly begin to make a come-hither motion with your fingers. This stimulates her G-spot. As she begins to enjoy what you are doing, you can get fairly aggressive fingering her. Babies come out of that thing; you don’t have to be too careful with it. Just remember to listen to breathing and moaning.

To arouse a woman orally, start by giving her whole pussy 10-12 “dog licks” to warm her up, before moving on to her clitoris. There are a number of ways to use your lips and tongue. The easiest way is to suck her clitoris into your mouth and then flick it with your tongue as you continue to suck on it. Every woman is different, so find out what she likes by experimenting and watching her reactions.

How To Pick Up A Woman in 15 Easy Steps

So I guess after my 14 attempts at picking up a woman, you’d figure the stars were finally aligned or my numbers came up or something happened to create a successful pick up. Yes, that’s right – last night, I, Mr. Dating Guy, successfully managed to initiate a conversation with a woman I’d never met before and get her phone number.

Last night I went to the same bookstore I was at a couple of weeks ago, where I had found a diamond earring, while attempting to pick up a couple of women. Turns out no one claimed them and the store manager called me to say I could come and pick the earring up.

I took the subway to the bookstore but wasn’t feeling particularly social. I don’t know why, since I had just made a move on a female friend of mine a couple of days ago and my last pick up attempt went very well. For some reason, I just wasn’t into talking with strangers on the subway. There were a couple of women I could’ve definitely started talking to but I chickened out and just sat silent and observed everyone else around me on the way to the bookstore.

When I got to the bookstore, I picked up the earring and headed upstairs to browse through books and see if I could start talking to someone. There were a lot of people in the store – many more than the last time I was there. I just wasn’t feeling that confident and I couldn’t shake the feeling. I saw a couple of women that I could’ve approached but I chickened out. I decided to console myself by just looking for some books to read for myself and forgetting about picking anybody up for the time being.

I headed to the philosophy section and start browsing. A few minutes pass and I suddenly notice there’s a woman who’s browsing really close to me. I perk up and wonder if I should start to say anything. But I don’t, which just causes me to feel worse and I decide to go back to my book browsing.

Then I move to the history section and start looking through a World War 2 book. I’m a big fan of history, especially 20th century, so this was something I really enjoyed. I must have stood there for a good 10 minutes just going through the book and consoling myself that I didn’t have to pick anyone up tonight. After all, maybe I deserved a break. Maybe other people wouldn’t consider this normal, to consistently go to public places to try and pick up women.

As I’m rationalizing my inaction, I hear the voice of a woman asking one of the store clerks for help finding a book. As it turns out, the book she was looking for was very close to where I was standing. She thanks the store clerk for the help and starts looking at the book. I get a look at her. She’s semi attractive. Not gorgeous, but definitely not ugly. Definite friends with benefits material and there’s a long shot for something more serious with her. OK, this must be a sign from above because a) I didn’t have to walk up to her since her book happened to be right next to me and b) the book’s title is very intriguing so it’s a great conversation starter.

I open with a question about the book. I honestly can’t remember exactly what I said but I think it was a comment about the funny title of the book. She looks up and tells me more about it. I can see she’s very intelligent right away. She starts telling me about all these other books that she’s really into, and she tells me how she’s a big fan of world history (which is a big plus in my books since I love history as well). I can see she’s a very passionate person with strong convictions. I’m actually quite pleasantly surprised to meet someone so intelligent and passionate and open.

After 10 minutes of non-stop talking, her female friend comes by to see if she’s ready to leave, but the woman tells her friend that she’ll meet up with her later. I take that as a very positive sign that she’s interested in me, since she could have used that as the perfect excuse to wrap things up with me and leave with her friend.

I feel like this would be a good opportunity to ask her to go for coffee and continue this further. So I ask, ever so casually, “Listen, it’s really interesting talking with you… what do you say we continue this over coffee?” She smiles but says she has to see her friend shortly. But then she gives me her business card and says to call her so we can get together another time. Alright, so I’m in.

We finally do a name introduction – she’s Anna. We then continue to talk… and talk… and talk. We literally talked non-stop for about an hour and half – until the store closed! She told me about her family, her upbringing, her beliefs, and we shared some funny stories. We had a lot of fun just sharing and talking and connecting. When the store closed, we went outside and talked for a few more minutes on the street. I offered to walk her over to her friend’s place but she said she could manage fine by herself. Now that I think about it, that probably wasn’t a great move on my part – after all, she only met me, and here I was offering to walk alone with her late in the evening. She tells me how it was most unexpected to meet me and my intuition is telling me that she’s definitely interested to go out. She tells me how she’s pleasantly surprised about our serendipitous meeting. I’m feeling great, too, but I wasn’t going to tell her “Oh, yeah, you’re my 15th pick up attempt and I came here to practice, and guess what – I finally succeeded with you!” We bid each other farewell and she goes off to her friend’s house while I go back home on the subway.
You’d think I’d be jumping for joy and be one of the happiest people on earth. Don’t get me wrong – I’m happy and really proud of the fact that I stuck through it and continued to pursue this goal despite the setbacks. But I’m not completely over the moon. One reason, is that I felt I lucked out because Anna happened to be browsing right next to me. I didn’t approach the women on the subway or the other women I saw at the bookstore before I started talking to Anna. Also, she wasn’t physically as attractive as I would have liked.

On the postive side, my feelings about dating are evolving. The fact that I went out tonight and got a phone number of someone that was a complete stranger just a few hours earlier is a feeling of great empowerment. It’s like I don’t have to depend anymore on women that I meet through traditional channels – through friends, dating sites, work, school, etc. The fact that I can just go out and meet new women out in public makes me feel… free, more attractive, independent and successful. I feel like I don’t have to accept crap from flaky women that don’t want to commit to a date or feeling scared of rejection from some woman that I really like. If I know I can go out and easily meet more women, then it makes me more relaxed and not feel like my happiness is dependent on how one or two women will respond to my overtures. It makes me care less about the outcome with any one woman, which, ironically, improves my chances of hooking up with women. I don’t have that desperate or determined attitude behind my words or actions and women can sense that I’m relaxed, but still engaged, in the interactions with them. This is the reason why I feel it’s necessary for me to date multiple women at the same time.

Things I learned

• Don’t go out with the goal of picking up. Tonight, I just wanted to connect with a new woman through a conversation, that’s all. If I happened to pick someone up, then great, but it wasn’t my goal. This concept is counter intuitive because we use goal setting in so many other areas of our lives. But for some reason, straight goal setting doesn’t seem to work as well with dating and picking up. The indirect approach seems to work better.
• Warm up if I’m feeling out of practice with picking up women. Last night, I felt like I couldn’t just jump in and start talking to women I was attracted to right away. I could have warmed up beforehand by chatting with other people that I wasn’t interested in – older women, men, unattractive women, etc. It’s like stretching before you start exercising.

Women, Women and More Women: Date With Hot Neighbor, Pick Up

Yesterday was an insane day as far as dating goes – I finally went on a date with my hot neighbor Eve, I tried to pick up a woman I met on the subway, I asked out another woman I met at an evening business networking event and I confirmed plans for Saturday with Angela, my friend with benefits. Oh, and I also had this long talk about dating with my female friend, Yvonne, and she’s now calling me her dating guru.

I don’t mean to sound like I’m boasting – I just find it amazing that my dating life has really improved in the last month – and all of it due to me just getting out there and approaching women, being more social, having fun and practicing my daily morning pick ups.

Date With My Hot Neighbor

OK, so first off I had my date with Eve, my hot neighbor. We went for coffee and had a great time connecting. We talked and laughed but I think there was a definite connection there. Turns out we have stuff in common about spirituality and philosophy of life and it was great to see that someone I found attractive had similar beliefs and values, too.
On the down side, she’s 4 years older than me and has an almost teenage son, but I’m willing to treat this as a “what if” situation. Like what if we had this nice hot fling and see where this goes :)
It’s kind of funny since we both live in the same building, we walked over to the coffee shop together and walked back together. We went up the elevator together and had to say our good-bye in the elevator. She said to call her if I want to get together with her again so I took that as a sign that she’s interested.

Pick Up Attempt 16 – On the Subway

I headed to a business networking event and I took the subway. I’m finding it easier and easier to strike up a conversation with a woman I’m attracted to. I noticed her coming down the stairs and getting onto a subway car. I just followed her into the same subway car and when she sat down I just asked her for directions to the place I was going. Now, I knew how to get there but I wanted to open with someone that would put her defenses down – the indirect approach that’s worked for me before. After she told me how to get to my place, I just sat relatively close to her (but not right next to her) and just started talking. She responded quite well and we ended up chatting for a good 15 minutes. As we were getting closer to her stop I just casually said, “Listen, you seem really nice and I was wondering if we could go out some time.” She smiles and I can see she thought about it but in the end she tells me that she’s recently taken a job out of town and will be moving in the next month or two. I accept her explanation and wish her well as she gets off at the next stop. I wonder, though, if I was more persistent, but in a fun way, if she would have considered having a short term fling. I mean, why not?!

Pick Up Attempt 17 – At a Networking Event

I got to my networking event and just fell into my groove. I felt like Rocky (one of my all time favorite movies, by the way) who runs and trains on the streets of Philadelphia – nothing fancy or high end, but when it comes down to a championship fight, he’s there and ready to rock. So here I was, after consistently saying hello to strangers, approaching women I meet in public and just being more social, I come to a social event – it was like taking candy from a baby – it just felt so easy being social with people who were there to socialize after spending so much time practicing/training being more social and outgoing.

I met a lot of cool people there and this really striking and very intelligent Brazilian woman. She just seemed so genuine and open and didn’t have any attitude about being beautiful – I was really amazed and drawn towards her. We talked throughout the evening, flirted, laughed and really connected. She kept touching my arm and shoulder throughout the evening but I also saw her do that with other guys so I wondered if it was a cultural thing that she’s just like that with a lot of guys.

At the end of the evening I had made up my mind I was going to ask her out – but I didn’t have the balls to just do it right there because I thought I would continue the connection by email. The Brazilian woman befriended my good friend, Yvonne, and the two of them exchanged contact info. I left the event with Yvonne and asked her if she could give me the Brazilian’s email. Well, Yvonne refused, saying that she wouldn’t do that to someone and that if I wanted to know if she would go out with me that I’d have to go back and ask her myself. And that’s exactly what I did…

I walk back to the event (we had just left) came up to the Brazilian and asked her to come over so I can talk to her privately. I just said something really simple like “I was going to contact you by email but my friend Yvonne refused to give me your address so I wanted to come back here and ask you myself: you seem really nice and someone I’d like to get to know better – would you like to go out sometime?” She was very flattered that I asked but said that she’s just getting over a big break up and isn’t ready to date yet. I took it all in stride and we continued to chat and joke around for a bit and then I left with Yvonne, again. I think there’s a definite possibility with the Brazilian because Yvonne will see here again and I’m likely to see her again if I come out to another event from the same networking group (to which the Brazilian belongs to). I felt like I just needed that extra push to go and ask out the Brazilian and Yvonne helped me out by refusing to give me her contact info.

Dating Advisor to a Female Friend

I didn’t think I would suddenly start giving dating advice to a woman, but that’s what happened with Yvonne. On the subway ride back she kept saying how she was very impressed that I just went back and asked out the Brazilian right away. I didn’t even think about it that much, to be perfectly honest. It’s like this kind of behavior is getting more ingrained and natural to me – I like that.

Yvonne is having her own problems with dating and she started asking me for advice on how to behave around guys she’s attracted to. I started telling her more and more about my dating life (up to now I hadn’t shared all my recent adventures with her) and how it’s been working for me so far and I’m having a great time. For instance, I told her all the events from today and she was floored that after seeing me ask out the Brazilian, she learned that I had also gone out on a date and asked out someone else I met on the subway all in one day.

Meanwhile, she’s having trouble making this one guy interested in her. I shared with her my ideas about practicing flirting and interacting with new people on a regular basis and how that’s helped me. She has the same problem I do – she can be very easy going and relaxed around guys she’s not that interested in but gets all tense and nervous around guys she’d like to be involved with romantically. I joked with her that we become “robots” around people we’re attracted to and how that ruins all the attraction in the other person’s eyes.

Who knows? Maybe Yvonne will become another friend with benefits. At this point, I’m just happy she can benefit from my experiences.

How to Suck Boobs Properly

Knowing how to suck boobs can heighten a woman’s arousal and in some cases, make her orgasm. Sucking boobs for most men is second nature to them (other than being horndogs for sex) and is a nice foreplay technique to get your lady into the mood. Use your tongue, mouth and hands and you are ready to go!

Lets Learn Sucking the Boobs perfectly

1. Start kissing. To suck boobs, start off by kissing them, then gradually make your way to her shirt. Gently squeeze her breasts like you would do a horn or move your hands in circular motions. After a few seconds goes by, take off her shirt then the bra.
2. Continue fondling her breasts. After taking off the shirt and bra, you can continue squeezing her boobs gently, then start cupping the boobs in your hands and start sucking them. Make sure to start off slow as breasts are one of the most sensitive parts of the woman’s body. With each nipple, make circular motions with your tongue and slightly suck them. You can also suck the nipple and squeeze the boobs at the same time or push them together.
3. Tell her what she likes. Remember, one of the best sexual experiences a person can have is when both people communicate what they enjoy. If she likes her boobs sucked a certain way or find it a turn on by the specific way you touch them, then follow what she says. You want the intimate moment be fun and exciting for the both of you.

4 Ways to Have More Sex—Tonight!

Too tired? Not in the mood? These excuses will never stop you again!


Excuses, Excuses
Getting busy with your guy is an excellent idea—and not just because it's fun (although that's a pretty good reason too). Being sexually active also helps beef up your immunity, fight stress, reduce pain and strengthen your relationship. But if you're like two-thirds of women, you're taking advantage of this health and happiness boost only once a week at most, according to a survey commissioned by the nonprofit organization HealthyWomen. The question is, why aren't you getting more action? We asked experts about the excuses they hear most often—and what you can do to heat things up between the sheets.

"I'm Exhausted"
"The most frequent complaint in my office is fatigue," says Hilda Hutcherson, M.D., clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Columbia University college of physicians and surgeons. Carving out more time for sleep will obviously help, but so can hitting the gym. "You'll feel more energetic," she says. Also, remember that sex doesn't have to be a marathon event. "Sometimes a quickie will do the trick," says Jill Blakeway, a holistic health practitioner in New York City and author of the forthcoming book "Sex Again: Recharging Your Libido."

"I Have a Headache"
Turns out this classic dodge isn't just a line. Women who get frequent migraines or other headaches are more likely than others to report sexual dysfunction, according to a recent study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. If OTC remedies like ibuprofen aren't cutting it, consult your doctor for help. Unfortunately, some migraine meds can hinder sex drive; if they affect you in that way, ask your provider about trying magnesium supplements, which may reduce the frequency of headaches.

"I'm Just Not in the Mood"
It's not unusual for desire to gradually wane after the white-hot flame of a new romance. To spice things up, try getting intimate in a room or location other than your bedroom, or using a toy and a sensation-enhancing gel, suggests Hutcherson. Occasionally hormonal shifts can interfere with your mojo as well—for instance, those that occur before your period. "They can cause irritability, breast tenderness and bloating. And if you don't feel well, you're not going to want to have sex," says Blakeway, so cut back on salt and caffeine and drink lots of water. But if the downturn has been sudden or seems severe, get a checkup: A thyroid disorder or depression could be to blame. Also ask your doc to review any medications you're taking; many common ones, including birth control, can dial down your drive.

"I'm Really Mad at Him"
An underactive libido may be a sign of underlying issues in the relationship. "Often women don't say anything when they're upset with their partners," says Hutcherson. Ask yourself if you're harboring any resentments. If so, voice them, and be specific. What could your guy—and you—do differently to make you happier? If the reward for having a difficult conversation is a better sex life, there's a pretty good chance he'll listen up.

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How Long Should You Wait to Have Sex?

First of all, I’m going to eliminate any religious considerations from the equation. If you want to hold out for religious and/or cultural reasons, then I honestly believe that should be respected. With that out of the way, I know that this isn’t exactly a groundbreaking question, and it’s been widely covered in many books, magazines, and movies.
There are a lot of “rules” that have been thrown around (some of which I will give my thoughts on), but the truth is, there is no right answer. The only rule I rely on is my trusted ultimate rule: get to the bottom of it.

If you’re considering sleeping with someone, then “get to the bottom of it” by asking why you’re considering it. Because he’s smoking hot and you’re super horny? Because you think he wants to sleep with you and you don’t want to seem like a prude? Because you want to see if he’s good in bed before you pursue the relationship any further? All fair considerations.

Image: Daniel Lee via Flickr  Ultimately, answering this question should be the guide on when you should go for it, because it places the priority on yourself rather than trying to please someone else. This leads me to why I hate rules.

Rules are stupid if they’re someone else’s rules and not your own. The infamous book The Rules by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider says to wait at least three dates. Do you also want to know what one of their Top 10 rules is? If you are in a long-distance relationship, he must visit you three times before you visit him, otherwise, he’s gonzo. If I had followed that rule, I wouldn’t have married my own husband!

Steve Harvey hit a home run with his book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, where he advised “ladies” out there to wait at least 90 days before giving up your goods. But ask yourself this: Do Ellen, Sherrie, and Steve know you? So why would you listen to their rules? The only “rules” you should be listening to are your own, based on your own feelings and beliefs rather than a one-size-fits-all template.  Many people trust self-proclaimed “experts” over their own intuition, because they don’t trust themselves.

Rules are also stupid when the focus is the other person, particularly manipulating another person. These so-called relationship gurus are right in that sex is a powerful thing. It’s intimate, personal, and emotional, which is why the basis of these “rules” is to use sex as power and leverage. Quite frankly, I think that’s f*ed up!

This article from Cosmopolitan particularly infuriated me, coming from supposed “relationship expert” Ryan C. Browning:

“During the time before you have intercourse, he’s fully under your spell. The longer you hold off, the more intrigued he’ll become, allowing you to set the pace and control how things develop. That’s why it’s important to postpone sex for as long as you can — I say at least a month…Look, he obviously wants to have sex, but he loves a good challenge too, and the more he has to work for it, the more enticing the prize will be. If he likes you, he’s subconsciously hoping you’ll fend him off because it makes you more desirable…As long as you dangle the promise of sex in front of him, he’ll be fixated on you.”

Feel free to disagree with me, but using sex to play games with the opposite sex is counterproductive for everyone involved. The example above is wrong on so many levels. First of all, it just sounds like a painful waste of time: to “set the pace and control how things develop” – sounds more to me like “delaying the inevitable.” Any guy that is “fully under my spell” and views me as an “enticing prize” when I “dangle the promise of sex in front of him” sounds like a dreadful loser.

These “rules” are written under the assumption that the woman is trying to convert the man into a boyfriend or a husband, and must follow the rules in order to do so. The premise is that you can use sex to control a man, but that’s assuming all men are the same, which is also an unfair and ridiculous assumption.

In doing some research for this post, I actually came across a pretty good article from match.com that’s a Guy’s Eye View of what the consequences are for sleeping with him too soon. Three guys on varying ends of the “when should you sleep with her?” spectrum weigh in, from the guy who will judge a girl that sleeps with him too soon, to another that thinks it’s no big deal as long as she doesn’t, either. The article doesn’t take a stance either way, but it just goes to show that you can’t really control what the guy on the other end is going to think of your decision on how long to hold out.

So, what am I really trying to say? Sex is powerful, so why not use its power to help get to know you better instead of trying to play mind games with someone? Isn’t it about self-respect and knowing your self-worth? If you can still respect yourself after sleeping with a guy in less than three dates or under 90 days, why not go for it?

Ways to Improve Enthusiasm in Your Relationship!

 
The two of you have resolved in to the routine of marriage and even though your lovemaking continues to be hot and passionate, you ponder whether it’ll always remain like that.
 

This is a question a lot of couples do not ask or perhaps know to ask but researchers did and there’s an answer. It would appear that researchers discovered Nerve Growth Factor (NGF), a protein inside the brain, is liable for the initial intoxicating rush and excitement for being in-love. Throughout substantial tests it had been determined that partners have been in the first couple of months of their romantic relationship showed higher levels of NGF. Even though this powerful proteins are accountable for the first impression and excitement of love, it was found to reduce considerably over the period of only 12 months.

For partners who’ve been with each other a long time, NGF protein levels went on to reduce as time passes as well as for some, it really started to be non-existent. Despite the fact that NGF protein levels could be limited or non-existent inside your brain and that also of your partner, you may still feel intense, affectionate lovemaking. That is because the decreasing NGF protein produces another chemical process that activates social bonding which helps to keep couples together even when the chemically induced lovemaking enthusiasm has reduced or faded. This bonding paves the way to get more intense, much deeper, enthusiastic lovemaking than even during early times of your marital relationship. That is great news for many couples and below are great tips that may help you bring back to the passionate lovemaking of your great wedding night.

Couples Lovemaking Tips and Hints!

• Notice that your lovemaking won’t always stay the same, as it was when your first day as couples. It may and can get even better.
• Take care of your respect, love, hope for and faith in your husband or wife.
• Keep your romance alive. Plan scheduled dates consistently for both of you even with and particularly when you have kids.
• Speak about sex and lovemaking together with your partner. Communicate your wants to your mate constantly and discover ways to get it done well. For instance, if you would like your partner to hug you in a particular way, tell you something such as “I love it when you kiss me this way. It can make me feel ______.” You are able to believe your partner will try to please each and every time.
• When you are not feeling in the right mood, honestly and lightly allow your partner understand why lovemaking does not get your interest at that time. Maintain the spark intact by making a comprehending environment so your spouse doesn’t feel declined or ignored.
• Develop a special love code to be used when you’re in public places and recognized to only both of you to show your desire to have lovemaking in not likely and daring locations.
• Make special holiday lovemaking occasions for both of you as couples.
• Make sensual and intense lovemaking activities, occasions, and enticing intimacy possibilities for you as well as your spouse around, and which includes special lovemaking holidays.
• Look out and discover different lovemaking tips and activities with each other and separately. Make sure even so, that when you deal with your partner with new things that your partner is good with the new ideas.

Whatever you decide to do, understand that no matter what degree of NGF is in your brain, the two of you can savor the intimacy and love produced by a healthy sex-life. It may need a bit ingenuity from you but with the help of a few reliable resources, your Lovemaking could be as awesome, intense, passionate, affectionate and satisfying like the first days of your marriage.

Lovemaking and Romance Advices For Couples

 

The romance as part of your marriage is apparently disappearing. You need to restore the fire. Do bear in mind that romance does not equate to sex, however. If a spouse says they need more romance in their marriage, it doesn’t mean they really want more lovemaking or sex.

Romance does play a significant part in lovemaking. In a marriage, romance is a way for you to let your spouse know they are special to you and in your life, however. There is a high chance the romance is gone if the passion in your marriage has waned. A few couples believe that having fantastic lovemaking will keep them resolve their poor marriage. This really is not very true. In fact, it is just a temporary deal with the actual issues that causes the marriage to weaken. So, no matter how deeply in love you are with your spouse, romance and lovemaking is a way to build intimacy and love between couples.

Have a look at negative behavior

The big drawback to a marriage happens when a couple gets too at ease with one another. We build improper habits. We take our spouse without any consideration and turn out nagging and demeaning them. Except if you take a long close look at just how you’re dealing with your spouse and get rid of those less-than-loving habits, you’re unconsciously destroying the romance in the marriage.

At least Once a week, plan a date night

I’m sure you have come across these tips so often. If you have budget constraints, do not limit your dates to just going to a fancy restaurant especially. Be imaginative somewhat. A walk within the preparing, packing and park a picnic lunch with each other, being at home and preparing food for dinner along are a few fantastic ideas which will practically set you back nothing but is a great one to let you have quality time with each other.

Don’t be selfish

You have to talk about your love to your spouse openly. The better you spend in your marriage, the more you’ll get out of it. Just be sure that your spouse doesn’t make the most of you or you’ll end up resenting him and also the marriage.

Talk regularly and have a genuine chitchats

There are lots of married couples who don’t go above “What is for dinner?” or “How is the chicken?” Worst of all scenario happens when they absolutely nothing to say to one another at all. Talking to your spouse could be the essence towards attaining emotional intimacy. You’ll need to have an honest and open conversations along with your partner concerning issues that really matter.

Add happiness into your lovemaking

Lovemaking and romance in the bedroom often take a backseat, when the marriage enters a routine. Put in efforts to revive it if the passion in your marriage is experiencing a plateau. Use props at home that will help you spark things up. Before intercourse or sprinkle rose petals on your sheets to get in the mood, my personal favorites are dipping an Alka-Seltzer quickly into water and then insert it into your vagina. The tingling feeling will be interesting for both of you. Sometimes, just reading a book on lovemaking ideas could possibly get started.

10 make-up tricks that will make girl’s life easier

Applying make-up is a painstaking, time-consuming process. Luckily, there are certain tricks that can help you cut down the time spent on your beauty routine to a minimum — and pull off the best look with the minimal amount of effort.

Here are ten of the most essential make-up tips absolutely every girl should know.

1. Apply liquid eyeliner over the pencil version

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If you have trouble drawing a straight line with liquid eyeliner, first use a pencil to make the outline. The liquid liner will sit just as well on the skin, and it’s also makes things a lot easier when it comes to correcting any mistakes you make.

2. Give your lashes greater volume with a touch of powder

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This simple trick will boost the volume of any mascara. Use a brush to put some powder on your lashes, and only then apply the mascara. This will make your eyelashes look much fuller.

3. Use mascara if you don’t have eyeliner

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Thanks to the similar ingredients and consistency, mascara can be used as eyeliner. You just need a thin make-up brush.

4. How to draw the perfect cat’s eyes:

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5. Brush your lips after brushing your teeth.

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Gently rub your lips with a dry toothbrush. It will help to scrub the dead skin off and make your lips smoother. It will also boost blood flow to your lips, causing them to swell. As a result, they will become softer, fuller and more sensual.

6. Revive your mascara with hot water

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Add several drops of boiled water in to your mascara, close it, and shake it.

7. Use your lipstick as rouge

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You can use your lipstick as a great substitute for rouge. Apply a little bit to the apples of your cheeks, spread and blend it into the skin with your fingertips.

8. Whiten your teeth with tooth-powder

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Use tooth-powder for your teeth several times a week. It’s a cheap, but effective product thanks to the calcium carbonate it contains. But remember to be careful, and make sure you consult your dentist before using it, as tooth-powder can damage the enamel of your teeth if used incorrectly.

9. Use facial sponges for scrubbing your face

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When cleansing your face with any kind of make-up remover, use special cosmetic sponges. Konjac sponges or algae sponges are the best choice here, as they easily exfoliate the skin and clean the pores.

10. Try applying your mascara vertically

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Applying mascara to both the upper and lower eyelids is an oft-neglected practice, but here’s an interesting tip: hold the brush vertically. This is a very simple, but probably one of the best tricks you can use. Touch your lashes with the tip of the brush for a more natural finish.

10 last-minute Valentine’s Day gift ideas

Life is good—and then suddenly you remember that tomorrow is Valentine’s Day. But now it must be too late to find an appropriate gift or arrange a romantic celebration. Au contraire. With a little imagination, you can still have a Valentine’s Day to remember. Here are 10 last-minute gift ideas to help make your holiday special.

Hearts and flowers

Flowers are a perfect last-minute gift for Valentine's Day. They're not only traditional, they're also widely available. Even grocery stores carry beautiful bouquets and arrangements for Valentine's Day. Make your gift of flowers a little extra special this year by slipping a love note or some handcrafted chocolates in among the blossoms. 

Let me count the ways

Buy your beloved a book of love poems at the nearest bookstore. It doesn't really matter whether you choose Shakespearean sonnets, love poems by Rumi, the 13th century Persian poet, or a volume of modern verse. A book of love poems can transform your last-minute purchase into a gift of timeless beauty.

No reservations? No problem

What could be better than a romantic dinner on Valentine's Day? But getting last-minute reservations may be nearly impossible. Rather than settle for something less than perfect, make your own romance with a picnic featuring food from your favorite deli or gourmet shop. If the February weather is too wet or cold where you live, find an indoor alternative: a car parked at a favorite overlook; your high-rise office with a glittering view of the city lights; the cabin of a borrowed boat or RV; or a blanket at home in front of the fire. 

Try a little bling

As a Valentine's Day gift, jewelry is a time-tested classic, and you can often find last-minute deals on a wide range of great pieces. A beautiful pendant or earrings for her; a handsome bracelet or watch for him. Whatever you choose, jewelry is a Valentine's Day gift that is sure to please.

Smile for the camera

Use your video camera to record an intimate message that will leave no doubt about the depth and intensity of your love. It's a last-minute gift that your beloved can keep and treasure -- and replay again and again. 

Frame it

If a picture is worth a thousand words, why not send your beloved an eloquent Valentine's Day message with a framed photo that declares your love? Whether you choose an image of the two of you or one that evokes a memory you share, the right photo will make your Valentine's Day picture perfect.

Start a love journal

Buy a nicely bound journal and write on the first page, sharing just one of the many things you appreciate about the man or woman of your dreams. Make this year's Valentine's Day gift the journal and that first romantic page. Then pledge to write a new entry each day of the coming year, and give your beloved the 

completed journal on Valentine's Day next year. 

Get a room

You don't have to fly to Paris to have a romantic evening. Call around to local hotels and book a last-minute room for two. February is the off-season for travel in most places, so you should have no problem finding a boudoir for the night that will fit both your budget and your mood.

Say it with ink

Be spontaneous! Make a permanent declaration of love with matching tattoos. Actually, they don't have to match. You can each get a tattoo that has meaning not only for you but also for the person you love, and together make a statement that time can't erase.

 

Why do men want sex in the morning?

Why do men want sex in the morning while women get frisky at night? Mystery solved

Why is it that a man feels at his sexiest when he wakes up in the morning but a woman wants to go back to sleep? And why, late at night, when a woman is in the mood for love, is her man just lying there, snoring? It all comes down to hormones. Here's why our sex clocks don't always tick in time.

5 AM
Even before a man wakes up, his testosterone levels are at their peak -between 25-50 per cent more than at any other time of the day. That's because the pituitary gland -which governs the production of the male sex hormone -has been switched on in the night and levels have been steadily rising until dawn.
Women also make testosterone -the main sex drive hormone -but produce a fraction of the amount and it rises by only a tiny bit overnight. It is also kept in balance by oestrogen and progesterone. Men need only a normal amount of testosterone to feel like having sex. The raised levels in the morning means most men will wake up two to three times a week with erections.

6 AM
Slept well? A good kip is another reason a man may feel even more amorous in the morning. Studies have found that the longer and deeper a man has slept, the higher his testosterone levels. Research in the Journal of the American Medical Association shows getting more than five hours' sleep can raise male levels by an extra 15 per cent.

7 AM
While a man's levels of sex hormones are at their highest when he wakes up, a woman's are at their lowest. Male and female testosterone levels are at their highest at opposite ends of the day, so they are out of sync, says consultant gynaecologist Gabrielle Downey, of the Sandwell and West Birmingham Hospitals NHS Trust.

Downey says it takes more than hormones to get a woman in the mood, so men need to make an active effort."

Women's hormones rise and fall more over their monthly cycle than through the course of a day. At their height -midway through her cycle -a woman's levels of testosterone will be 30 times higher than at the start.

8 AM
As both sexes get ready for the day, levels of the stress hormone cortisol rise to help them wake up -and dampen the effect of sex hormones. Cortisol, studies show, lowers the sex drive of both men and women.

As the day goes on, men steadily make testosterone. The hormone is needed to trigger muscle growth and sperm production. Levels will fall and rise every 90 minutes through the day as part of the body's in-built clock.

12 Noon
An attractive colleague wanders into the workplace. But it's his nervous system and not his hormones that kick into action.

The sight of someone attractive immediately releases feel-good brain neurotransmitters called endorphins -and triggers blood flow to a man's genitals. Sex hormones take longer to increase. However, when confronted with a sexy person, a man who already has higher testosterone levels is likely to be more flirtatious. Men with more testosterone are also more likely to be found attractive by women, according to researchers at Wayne State University in Michigan, US.

1 PM
Women who catch a glimpse of a hunk at lunchtime, are less likely to be aroused than if a male colleague sees someone he fancies. Instead, studies have found that a woman's testosterone levels are more likely to be boosted by the anticipation of sex with her own partner.

In one study by the University of Texas, women in long-distance relationships gave five saliva samples. The tests were given two weeks before they saw their partners, the day before, before sex, the day after sex and three days after the pair were separated. The women's testosterone levels hit their peak the day before they were due to see their partners again.

6 PM
As evening approaches, men's levels of testosterone start to fall while women's sex hormones gradually rise.

Studies have shown, that an after-work gym session can boost the libido of both genders. Research by scientists at the University of California, San Diego, found men who exercised had a boosted libido.

They also reported having 30 per cent more sex and 26 per cent more orgasms. A University of Texas study showed that women who had 20 minutes of cardio were more aroused by seeing an erotic film than those who had not exercised.

7 PM
When it's time to unwind after a stressful day, even putting on music can affect sex hormone levels. A Japanese study by Nara University found that music boosted testosterone levels "significantly" in women but had the opposite effect in men.

Researchers believe the reason is that music may make women feel more relaxed, bonded and in turn more sexual, while in men it calms their aggression and in turn reduces their levels of testosterone.

8 PM
If an important match is on TV, the results can also affect a man's testosterone. According to a study of saliva tests by the University of Utah, sports fans watching a World Cup game boosted hormone levels by about 20 per cent if their team won.
After a loss in a big game, there was a 20 per cent drop in levels.

By contrast, women are more likely to be affected by actually playing sport rather than watching it.

9 PM
By now, a man's testosterone level is dropping to the day's lowest level, while a woman's is heading towards its highest point. But, sexual desire in women is not a simple story.

Downey says, the greatest factor influencing sex drive is body image. If a woman sees herself as unattractive, she is much less likely to want to have sex. Which is why, women with polycystic ovaries, who have increased levels of testosterone, don't have increased libido. They often see themselves as overweight and not attractive -and that feeling over rides their heightened sex hormones.

10 PM
Even though men's testosterone levels are now at their lowest, they are still more likely to have sex in the evening as men's levels are still running higher than a woman's, says Downey. She adds that once they are making love, if a woman's testosterone levels are peaking because of where she is during her cycle -around the 13th day -her orgasms are more intense and they will be felt all over the body.

When the levels are lower, her climaxes are less intense and centred mainly around the sexual organs.

-Daily Mirror