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People assume that a father cannot raise a daughter.


Well, I was brought up by a single dad (parents got separated, mom was young and was studying far away). For one full year with no help. I was around 4 years old at that time.  People always assumed that he couldn't take care of me.

He used to get me ready for school and that wasn't an easy task, because I hated going to school. After a year, my grandparents came to help, but he was the one who had always been the backbone of my life. He was the first person who taught me to draw and read (he is an architect and I'm an avid reader).

He couldn't go to public gatherings with me.
People always looked at him differently and gave this sick sympathy which both of us didn't need. People assumed that he can't do a good "job" raising a daughter.

Teachers always talked to him differently. I understand as a growing girl, there are few things a dad can't tell. But they all looked at him as he was handicapped and kept asking about my mom. And my mom was like just 25, and finishing up her studies and getting a job and she had to make a solid life as a single woman, and my dad supported that.

I don't have much memories of him attending any guys night out or anything until I grew up to be 15, and I could take care of myself. He was always there for me.

When I went to college, he treated me like a princess. He gave me a financial freedom which many parents don't give. At the age of 19, I had a credit card, but I always told my dad about my expenses. He taught me how to manage my time and money. 

And it wasn't easy for him when I had my first heartbreak, where the guy's mom rejected me telling I wasn't raised by a "mom". But that's when I realized, a person who can't appreciate another doesn't deserve respect.

Because of him, I don't discriminate men. I don't expect them to do anything for me just because they are men. I have seen how girls use up guys and take advantage of them. But my father made me think independent and never depend on any man or a woman.

But, I would always remember the way he was treated by everyone. The looks, the talks which clearly stated that a father cannot take care of a daughter well.

Being a man doesn't mean that you cannot take care of your child with love and care.

And whatever I am today, I owe it to my dad. I'm a living example of how an amazing man can raise a daughter by himself.


My mom didn't leave me or my dad.  I would like to clarify that. My mom was 18 when she got married.  My parents separated by mutual consent. And she never had any degree or education. And she didn't want to remarry, obviously she wasn't going to spend the rest of her life living under her parents.

She went to study her UG, my dad helped as much as he could, and it was his idea too.  And she had to take tuitions to pay for her college. I always look upto my mom. She is an independent woman who made her life on her own.
 She used to write letters all the time, and she used to cry everytime we talked. And she made herself so that she can give me a comfortable life in the future. That she doesn't have to depend on so called anyone in the society.

I would highly appreciate if you wouldn't jump into conclusion that my mom left us. It was a situation for us. And I don't blame either. Honestly their separation was the best thing that happened to them, they grew up as individuals, and they have been happy. It's always better than living suffocated in fights just to satisfy a "society". 
It wasn't easy for my mom to leave her child and go study. But I'm glad she did. She did that so that she could always offer her child. So that she can be independent. I respect that in her.

And my parents respect each other and do care as friends. And they are really one when it comes to me. I have best of both worlds actually :)

Edit, here is a pic of me and dad



And for my mom, I'm still a baby.

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Anika Devi received her Bachelor’s degree in Media, Culture and Communication from New York University in 2012. She began freelancing for Business Solutions BD in 2010 and joined the team as a staff writer three years later. She currently serves as the assistant editor.
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